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Are men to blame for the divorce problem in this country?

According to Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC - there are specific qualities we need to instill in our own lives in order to raise children with emotional intelligence and cut down on the divorce rate:

1. Commitment
   According to one definition, “commitment is a freely chosen inner resolve to follow through with a course even though difficulty arises." Commitment is a daily discipline. It’s the chat after dinner, and the kiss before work. It’s the core from which we respond to difficulty. It’s what makes our lives richer and deeper.
2. Emotional Awareness
   If you’re planning on getting married someday, you need to be aware of what your emotional issues are. If you don’t know them, you’re a great candidate to add to a divorce rate that’s already staggering.
3. Be Kind, Not Right
   An enormous amount of time is wasted in our relationships by arguing over who’s right or wrong. This arguing is an indication of low self-esteem. A more effective way to be in a relationship is to commit to kindness. When you’re kind, you don’t need to be right.

Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches people in relationships by phone.